Jodi Arias Ex-Lawyer Rails About Convicted Murderer's 'Sexual Escapades'

Jodi Arias' former lawyer, Kirk Nurmi, writes in his newly released book that he was forced to represent a manipulative and intimidating client who was sexually inappropriate and "very disturbed."

He explains the title of the book, "Trapped with Ms. Arias," in the introduction, saying the five-year case took an emotional toll on him and prompted him to give up his job at the public defender's office just to get away from Arias – a move the courts ultimately shot down by ordering him to stay on the case.

"Once I had a sense of where this case was going, I was willing to give up a job … simply to get away from Ms. Arias, and when I did not get away, I realized that I was truly trapped on her case, which also meant I was trapped with her," Nurmi wrote.

"To fully get a visual of what Ms. Arias did to my brain you would have to find some fecal matter, throw it into the pan, add a chopped up dead rat and scramble the whole mess up. Once completely cooked this concoction would then approximate the effect that Ms. Arias would have on my brain."

Nurmi also criticizes the way he was portrayed as an Arias sympathizer, something he discussed with HuffPost on Tuesday.

"A lot of people don't understand that I was assigned the case as a public defender," he said. "A lot of people think I chose her specifically. Attorneys that do cases like this aren't endorsing what their clients did. They aren't endorsing murder [and] they're not defending their conduct. They are defending their rights and I think the public at large should probably have a better understanding of that."

Foreplay

"He refused to kiss me because he said it was gross ... maybe because I had been performing oral sex, but he kissed me on the cheek and then left," Arias said in court about a September 2006 sexual liaison with Alexander.

Foreplay

"Sometimes it hurt if it got in my eyes," Arias said on March 4, 2013, about receiving facials. "I couldn't help feeling I was kind of like a prostitute."

Foreplay

"Oh my God that is so debasing, but I like it," Arias said in a 2008 recorded conversation with Alexander when he said he wanted to tie her to a tree and have anal sex with her.

Sex

"To me sex is sex, there are just different ways to have sex. And it seemed like Travis was, kind of — I don't know how to put it, but it seemed like he had the Bill Clinton version, whereas over here it seemed like oral and anal were also sex to me. But not for him," Arias testified on Feb. 6, 2013.

The Love Affair

"I felt an attraction to him and the feeling was mutual and I wanted to, I just wanted to, I don't know. I wanted to do what he wanted to do," Arias said of giving Alexander oral sex in September 2006, in the weeks following their initial meeting in Nevada.

The Love Affair

"I wanted to [abide] with the law of chastity because I believed that our relationship would be blessed if we did that," Arias testified.in February 2013.

Fairy Tales

"We dated for like five months and we broke up and actually did not see each other for quite a bit,"€ Arias said.

"€œ[We] tried to remain friends, more like buddies. We were intimate but I would not say romantic as far as a relationship goes," Arias told police on June 10, 2008.

The Love Affair

“I believe he had aspects of himself that are beautiful and ugly, just as I do," Arias said.on Feb. 26, 2013.

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Fairy Tales

"When we broke up ... it was kind of a mutual thing, but I sort of more broke up with him and it was kind of hard to do because I really loved him. But, I just realized that without trust, you can`t have anything, and I had violated his trust," Arias told police on July 15, 2008.

Fairy Tales

"It`s not that I don`t love Travis and it`s not that I don`t still love him, but I really needed to move on," Arias told police on July 15, 2008.

Sex

"I probably would have let him continue, but it was too painful," Arias testified in reference to having anal sex with Alexander on Nov. 26, 2008 — the day he baptized Arias into the Mormon faith. She added, "[I felt like] a piece of toilet paper."

Sex

"I asked him to stop because he hadn't shaved and it was scratchy," Arias said on Feb, 19, 2013, in regard to Alexander allegedly performing oral sex on her the day he was killed.

Lies

"Lying isn't typically something I just do. The lies I've told in this case can be tied directly back to either protecting Travis' reputation or my involvement in his death ... because I was very ashamed," Arias said in court on March 7, 2013.

Lies

"If I go to trial for this and if I`m convicted for this, whoever did this is going to be sitting very pretty somewhere -- glad that it was not them," Arias told police on July 15, 2008.

Lies

"If I killed Travis, I would beg for the death penalty," Arias commented to a police detective in July 2008.

Lies

"If I was going to ever try to kill somebody, I would use gloves. I have plenty of them," Arias told a police detective in July 2008.

Lies

"I'm all for the Ten Commandments — thou shall not kill," Arias told police in July 2008.

Lies

"I understand all the evidence is really compelling ... I've never even shot a gun. That's heinous. I can't imagine slitting anyone's throat." Arias told the TV show "Inside Edition" in 2008, after she was indicted for killing Alexander.

Lies

"I don't have a gun ... I've never seen it ... I don't even know what a .25 looks like," Arias told police on July 15, 2008.

Lies

"You sure it was me? I was not there. I didn't hurt Travis," Arias told police on July 15, 2008, when she was told authorities had photographic evidence that she was at Alexander's house the day he died.

Lies

"I'm not the brightest person, but I don't think I could stab him, I'd have to shoot him … The least I could do is make it as humane as possible," Arias told a police detective on July 15, 2008.

Lies

"I don't think I've ever even fired a gun ... water guns, but not a real gun," Arias told police on July 15, 2008, when asked about the .25 caliber handgun used in Alexander's slaying.

Lies

"I think he was shot … I heard this loud ring – I don't remember. Travis was screaming. I know I got hit in the head … There were two people there … one was a guy and one was a girl … The girl wanted to kill me ... I was really scared. I was freaked out of my mind," Arias told police on July 15, 2008, after she finally admitted being at Alexander's home when he was murdered but denied she was involved in the killing. Arias told police two intruders – white Americans with beanies covering their faces – killed Alexander and let her live.

Lies

"I think there was a naive belief that I could pretend [Alexander's murder] didn't really happen," Arias said in a 2009 interview with "48 Hours."

Lies

“I couldn’t keep my stories straight. It’s all the same thing, just different versions – I couldn’t keep my lies straight,” Arias said on Feb. 27, 2013, while detailing her confusing web of deception.

Lies

"I understand that there will always be questions," Arias said on March 7, 2013, when she was asked by her attorney why, given all the lies she has admitted to, anyone should believe anything she says.

Bloodshed

"It started where Travis was in the shower. I was taking photos of him [and] the camera slipped ... It fell onto the ground. He got very angry. He stepped out of the shower and lifted me up and body-slammed me … I ran down the hallway ... into the closet. I grabbed the gun [and] ran out ... I just wanted him to stop, so I pointed the gun at him ... He lunged at me right around the time the gun went off. I didn't mean for it to go off," Arias said of the events of June 4, 2008.

Bloodshed

"It was like mortal terror. I pissed him off the worst I'd ever seen him pissed off," Arias testified on Feb. 20, 2013. She was referring to Alexander allegedly attacking her on June 4, 2008, when she dropped his camera. "I was scared ... He's freaking out. I'm freaking out," Arias said.

Bloodshed

“I didn’t choose to escalate it. I was trying to deescalate it," Arias said on Feb. 28, 2013.

Bloodshed

“The gun went off. I did not mean to shoot him or anything,” Arias testified on Feb. 20, 2013.

Bloodshed

"I was scared and I couldn't imagine calling 911 and telling them what I had just done," Arias testified on Feb. 20, 2013. "I was scared of what would happen to me."

Bloodshed

"The simple answer is that he attacked me and I defended myself," Arias testified on April 2, 2013.

Bloodshed

"There's a morbid curiosity ... I mean I am curious," Arias told police when asked if she wanted to view the crime scene photos.

Bad Memory

"There is a part of me that does not want to remember it ... [but] I feel like I am the person who deserves to sit with those memories that I don't have right now," Arias said on March 5, 2013, of Alexander's killing.

Bad Memory

"I can't explain why my mind did what it did ... I really don't know," Arias said on March 6, 2013, of why she had no memory of killing Alexander.

The 326-page book describes how Arias attempted to manipulate everyone, including him, with sex appeal, lies and intimidation. He writes she was "more than a bit flirtatious at times."

Inappropriate behavior, Nurmi wrote, was a common theme in his interactions with the bespectacled murderess, who tried to turn her elaborate sex life into a defense for the brutal killing of her ex-boyfriend, Travis Alexander.

"I could have ignored all this stuff that I really did not care to listen to, but listen I did for the most part," he wrote. "That is not to say that I did not have my limits. I remember one discussion I had with Ms. Arias that related to her sexual escapades with Mr. Alexander. Certainly a relevant topic given the facts of the case, but ... Ms. Arias decided that she wanted to inform me of the current state of her vaginal grooming."

Nurmi writes he quickly shut Arias down, as her "sole goal was to manipulate me into acting in accordance with her wishes."

"I was the most significant male relationship in her life. I took that to mean that in her sick twisted mind, Ms. Arias saw me as her boyfriend. Putting two and two together, this meant that Ms. Arias did not care if I saw her naked because she viewed me as her boyfriend. Sadly, the fact that your client creeps you out is not reason to file a motion to withdraw, trust me I filed many of those motions in this case and 'she creeps me out' is not a viable legal motion. Trust me, if it was, I would have filed it."

Intimidation, Nurmi said, surfaced when he wouldn't bend to Arias' will.

"Ms. Arias informed me in no uncertain terms that she was going to speak about me in very unfavorable terms at the jail so that none of her fellow inmates would want to hire me," Nurmi wrote in his book. "She wanted all my time. In her mind ... I was to be her personal lawyer and she was not willing to share me with other clients even if she had to lie about me to keep other clients away."

Jodi Arias Drivers License

The drivers license Jodi Arias presented when she rented a car prior to Travis Alexander's murder.

WARNING

Some photos in this slideshow are graphic and may be disturbing to some viewers.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Jodi Arias taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at Travis Alexander's home. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken on the same day of Alexander's murder.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his home. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken on the same day of Alexander's murder.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Jodi Arias taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at Travis Alexander's home. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken on the same day of Alexander's murder.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken on the same day of Alexander's murder.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken minutes before he was murdered.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken minutes before he was murdered.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken minutes before he was murdered.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken minutes before he was murdered.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken minutes before he was murdered.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken minutes before he was murdered.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken minutes before he was murdered.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken minutes before he was murdered.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken minutes before he was murdered.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken minutes before he was murdered.

Evidence

The last photo ever taken of Travis Alexander, directly before his murder. The photo was recovered from the camera card.

Camera Photo's

A photo of Travis Alexander taken from the camera card found in the washing machine at his. Prosecutors allege this photo was taken minutes before he was murdered.

Travis Alexander Crime Scene

A photo of Travis Alexander's body in the shower of his apartment.

Travis Alexander Crime Scene

A photo of Travis Alexander's body in the shower of his apartment.

Travis Alexander Crime Scene

A photo of Travis Alexander's body in the shower of his apartment.

Autopsy Photo

The prosecution contends this photo, shown in court on Jan. 8, 2013, shows Travis Alexander had multiple self-defense wounds to his palms and fingers that indicate he had fought for his life during the knife attack.

Autopsy Photo

The prosecution contends this photo, shown in court on Jan. 8, 2013, shows Travis Alexander had multiple self-defense wounds to his palms and fingers that indicate he had fought for his life during the knife attack.

Autopsy Photo

The prosecution contends this photo, shown in court on Jan. 8, 2013, shows Travis Alexander had multiple self-defense wounds to his palms and fingers that indicate he had fought for his life during the knife attack.

Autopsy Photo

The prosecution contends this photo, shown in court on Jan. 8, 2013, shows Travis Alexander had multiple self-defense wounds to his palms and fingers that indicate he had fought for his life during the knife attack.

Autopsy Photo

The prosecution contends this photo, shown in court on Jan. 8, 2013, shows Travis Alexander had multiple self-defense wounds to his palms and fingers that indicate he had fought for his life during the knife attack.

Autopsy Photo

The prosecution contends this photo, shown in court on Jan. 8, 2013, shows Travis Alexander had multiple self-defense wounds to his palms and fingers that indicate he had fought for his life during the knife attack.

Autopsy Photo

The prosecution contends this photo, shown in court on Jan. 8, 2013, shows Travis Alexander had multiple self-defense wounds to his palms and fingers that indicate he had fought for his life during the knife attack.

Autopsy Photo

The prosecution contends this photo, shown in court on Jan. 8, 2013, shows Travis Alexander had multiple self-defense wounds to his palms and fingers that indicate he had fought for his life during the knife attack.

Autopsy Photo

The prosecution contends this photo, shown in court on Jan. 8, 2013, shows Travis Alexander had multiple self-defense wounds to his palms and fingers that indicate he had fought for his life during the knife attack.

Autopsy Photo

Autopsy photo of Travis Alexander's legs.

Autopsy Photo

Autopsy photo of Travis Alexander's foot.

Travis Alexander Crime Scene

A photo of Travis Alexander's body in the shower of his apartment.

Autopsy

X-ray image of Travis Alexander's skull that was shown in court.

Autopsy

X-ray image of Travis Alexander's skull that was shown in court.

Arias, 35, was convicted of first-degree murder in May 2013 for Alexander's death. However, the jury deadlocked on whether to send her to death row. A penalty phase retrial also ended in deadlock, resulting in Arias receiving a life sentence for Alexander's slaying. She's serving her time in an Arizona prison and couldn't be reached for comment Wednesday.

During Arias' trial, her sex life took center stage and most of the lurid details — the sex games, the role playing, the dirty pillow talk — came directly from the defendant's lips in 18 days of testimony on national TV.

She sought to convince the jury that she was an emotionally and physically battered woman, forced to succumb to her boyfriend's every whim. On the night of June 4, 2008, when she shot Alexander in the head, stabbed him more than two dozen times, slit his throat from ear to ear, and left his naked body on the floor of his shower, she was in a "fog," she said.

Prosecutor Juan Martinez – who has authored his own book, "Conviction: The Untold Story of Putting Jodi Arias Behind Bars" -- depicted her at trial as a liar and a narcissist, obsessed with the man who tried to break up with her.

It was the salacious details of the case, Nurmi told HuffPost, that likely garnered the massive amount of public interest in the case.

"It was probably one of the first trials [since] Casey Anthony to have such intense exposure," Nurmi told HuffPost. "Ultimately, what happened in the end to Travis Alexander is a tragedy, but it's different in the sense that there was a sexual relationship and I'm assuming that's why it got people's interest."

Nurmi details in the book his own theory of what happened inside Alexander's home the night he was killed – a theory, he acknowledges, not everyone might agree with.

"My book is really for people that are open to having what they think about the case challenged a little bit," he said. "It's for those who are open to hearing a different perspective. Those who want their beliefs [reinforced] may not find much of an interest in it."

Nurmi's book -- the first of three he plans to write on the case -- is available on Kindle and in paperback at Amazon.com.

"The second book will cover the first trial," he said. "I'm calling it 'From Trial To Mistrial.' The third book will cover everything beyond that."

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